Stella Allen, aged 87, passed away peacefully on December 8, 2022. Stella was born on the farm near Frobisher Saskatchewan on February 11, 1935. Stella is predeceased by her husband Arthur and survived by daughter Naomi ( Ray ), son Thomas ( Barbra ), and two grandsons, Jake and Bill .
So how does one properly pay tribute to one's mom? How does one describe how much one loves one's most loyal advocate and best friend for life? This is my attempt folks. I hope I can do her justice with my words ......... I struggle to refer to my mom in the past tense. She was our mother. She still is our mother and she will always be our mother whether she is here with us or somewhere else, she remains our mom. Stella's approach to parenthood as well as life in general is a plain and simple approach: absolutely unconditional warmth, love, and affection for whoever she cared about. She did not hide her head in the sand and ignore "the other side of life" but she never allowed it to rule her state of mind. For her, there is always a way to move through the bad stuff and return to positivity. It wasn't one of those sticky sweet bright-side things, she just puts stuff in its rightful place in her mind, and that's it. Pragmatic ...? Yes ! Practical ... ? Yes ! This is Stella Allen ... Our mom basically dedicated her entire life to being what Nomi and I regard as the best mom ever! Of course we ARE biased because we were both raised to be just as loyal as she is. I know there are many other people out there who also love our mom but I am afraid that the first two spots in line are taken!!!! We are just going to miss her SO MUCH but we will press on with the warm and fuzzy memories and feelings she has left us with. Thank you all for the various roles you have all played in our mom's long and beautiful life.
Please feel free to post a memory or thought for all of us.
In lieu of flowers, please send donations to the Union Gospel Mission, 601 E. Hastings St., Vancouver, B.C. V6A 1J7. Click here to donate: www.ugm.ca/donate
January 10th, 2023
You were my first friend in Canada. You were reminding me a lot of my grandmother with your comfortable sneakers and your calm nature.
It was easy to come to an agreement with you, at least with me, and the job was as if it wasn't a job at all, because neither you nor I saw it that way, I guess. We felt comfortable next to each other.
And thank you for being my keeper of secrets when I first came to a foreign country without anyone who I knew from before, not trusting a living soul. With morning tea or afternoon supper, you learned more about me than anyone else at the time, I would say. We both had a therapeutic effect on each other.
It was a pleasure to meet you, hang out with you, watching hummingbirds and playful squirrels in your backyard as well as listening to your favourite country songs while speaking about memories and life. I will miss you.
Love, Arijana
December 25th, 2022
Stella, Tom's mom, is very present at the dawn of my memory. Stella would watch over us when it was my turn to go to Tom's house each week. We were maybe 4-5 years old, maybe less. So I remember Stella like a mother figure and I really LIKED going to Tom's place in a big way! We had a lot of fun and I felt safe and warm and loved. Rest in peace Stella.
December 20th, 2022
Stella and Art, Art and Stella. My friends since Smith St. Regina 1958.
They shall live in my heart until I follow.
December 19th, 2022
I am very blessed to have called her Auntie Stella. From my earliest memory of being her flower girl - I still smell those pink carnations - to our last phone call about a month ago, she was always happy to visit and interested in me and our family. I'm so glad that I was able to visit with her and Uncle Art in their home several times in the past few years and enjoy their hospitality and engaging conversation. I will miss the visits, the regular phone calls and the special relationship that we had. Family is forever. Rest easy Auntie Stella.
December 19th, 2022
I was very fortunate to spend Sundays with Stella for almost 2 years. In that time, I got to know such an amazing woman who was incredibly kind, thoughtful and compassionate. She carried a lovely inner strength and integrity with whatever she did. I enjoyed her sense of humour and looking through her lens on life. I will miss her dearly and the times we shared: whether it be enjoying her beautiful garden, watching the birds, having some good laughs or just having a cup of tea. Rest in peace, sweet Stella.
December 18th, 2022
Stella, thank you for the love and friendship you shared with my parents and with me and my brother. Everything Tom and Nom said about you is true.
So many memories.
Happy landing
Love
Susan
December 18th, 2022
We are so lucky to have known Arthur and Stella. They lived a charachter-filled life and left us with some great memories and creative ideas for our own lives.
Love, Ted, Nicole, Leif, Kylie and Pilot
December 17th, 2022
I don't want to say anything too long about mom; for one thing, she wouldn't like it. I just have a few thoughts and feelings.
The recent couple of years have been quite something. Mom was fierce about her independence. She always got up between 5:00 and 6:00 a.m. She completed full sets of exercises every day without fail. And, if anyone tried to clean her toothbrushes (she had 5), or tried to brush her hair for her; well, it didn't happen twice.
I am so very thankful to the good souls who came as caregivers and became the best of friends.
I am thankful to Tom and family who came. She adored them. They also supported me in ways they don't even know.
Mom and I were never the same people - we didn't need to be. But oh, we did forge a bond. We have been a profoundly close team in the last 2 years.
As far as a whole life with mom, I have this to say: She looked at each of us often like she had fallen in love for the first time. I miss her so much, I can't explain.
I love you mom.
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